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Are we all Leaders?

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I recently published in my newsletter an article on leadership. http://www.allisonfisher.co.nz/articles.htm

I had some wonderful responses to it including the response below from someone who works in the Health sector.  An inspiring message for people who don’t think they are leaders.   A reminder to us that to be a leader it  just takes some simple and real human values and a desire to make a difference in some way,  it’s not really rocket science.   Here it is –

“My team is dynamic, intelligent, caring and patient oriented.  I admire them and am extremely proud of who they are and what they achieve, on very small salaries and few resources. After a recent survey aimed at all staff, my boss told me I had a huge amount of respect from my staff – which really surprised me. She said it was because of my style of leadership – that I am an advocate for them and get on to issues quickly. Until this time, I had never thought of myself as a leader, (in fact quite the opposite) because of the things I’ve read about the attributes leaders should possess. Thank you so much for affirming what my boss told me – it’s not that I aspire to be a leader, I just want to make a difference for my staff, improve their conditions and help them be the best that they can be.”

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The Magic of Words

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I’ve been thinking about how we use words in everyday life.  And I wonder if we  use words enough to tell people how we feel about them, thank them for something they have done for us, admire how well they did something or just say how nice they look.  Sometimes I think it and don’t say it, sometimes I forget to say it and sometimes I get too busy.  There are different ways we can feedback to others.  We could use a card, a txt, an email or say it face to face.  For those who are close to you it would be clever to find out how they like to receive feedback.  A friend of mine just adores receiving and giving cards.  She chooses her words very carefully when she writes in a card.  Now her children write lovely words to her on mother’s day and she writes them a card too.  I guess that is her love language.

Saying nice things to others really takes so little time and those receiving it get such reward from them.  It really is a magical process, the saying of lovely words from the heart to someone and to feel their grateful response.

So that’s my intention for the week is to say more nice things to others.  You might like to try it too.  Be really aware of when and how you can give some lovely feedback to others.

How positive are you to others?

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Did you know that teenagers need 8 positive to 1 negative interactions in a day?

Adults need a 4 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.

That’s quite a lot isn’t it.  Teenagers need positivity to build their self-esteem and sense of self and resilience.  I guess this would be the same for younger children as well.  We are talking about genuine positive feedback not saying things because we should to make people feel ok.   Imagine if teenagers don’t get this positive feedback.  They will become pessimistic, lack confidence and have no resilience.  To build an accurate self-image then teens need lots of positivity in their lives.  It’s a bit daunting isn’t it.   But you know maybe just start one day at a time.  Consider your own level of positive feedback and decide today to do it more and then more and then more again!