It is so easy to do – too easy really that when women get into relationship we tend to mother our men!!  I don’t know why maybe it’s the maternal instinct that comes out in us, that when we love someone the mothering brim’s up.  We ask things like have you got your jumper as they step outside or have you got your lunch or do things round the house that are more like a mother rather than an intimate relationship.

We have to learn that this relationship is not a maternal one.  It is hopefully a fun, passionate, enjoyable loving genuine relationship in which two people have equal responsibility to make it work.  When we try to mother our men then this immediately changes it to a mothering role.  A mothering role is not full of passion, sexuality, flirting and excitement.  It might be fun and enjoyable but not in that attraction flirty kind of way.  A mother has responsibility for her child – you are not responsible for your man!   You are both responsible for the relationship not each other.  Do take care of each other, by asking do you need me to help with…..  Do loving things like arranging surprise dates out but do not worry about whether he is warm enough or had enough breakfast or that he remembered to pick up the batteries for the remote.  Stop it ladies, you have enough to worry about and get on with in life  – just be a loving friend and lover, allow yourself to receive from your partner and most important look after yourself.  🙂